“Keep pushing that stereotype of gays you two!!”
That’s the only really negative comment Teddy and I have gotten so far on our “Besties for Cash” video on YouTube. Honestly, Teddy and I were more bothered by any comment asking, “who are they?” because we thoroughly enjoy our disillusions of fame and self-importance. I would blog about those comments, but reading 600 words where I whine about how to win the hearts of America would be about as interesting as hipsters talking about their moustaches. So I’ll spare you.
What’s also a bore are you self-hating gays who throw the word stereotype around to shame any gay who doesn’t act like what you feel a model gay dude should act like. The critic felt that our talk of sex perpetuated the stereotype that gay men are whores. First, I just love when someone watches a comedian and takes every word for face value. Second, a lot of gay men like sex. Guess what, a lot of men like sex. A lot of people like sex. Who knew, right? Many gay men simply feel liberated to talk about it.
Why do I even want to address this? Because everyone should feel free to act how they act. That video was how Teddy and I act. If you hated it you should probably steer clear of our dinner parties. I know! Gay guys having dinner parties – how stereotypical!
In high school I had a friend who was desperate to stray from the norm. More than once he said, “I actually really like [insert new trend here], but I don’t want to jump on the bandwagon. I was confused. I didn’t understand the bandwagon aversion. If you like it, do it. If you hate it, don’t. What’s the issue?
So now are gay men growing up desperate to break away from the gay bandwagon? The stereotype? Is there someone out there who loves Cher, but doesn’t want to play in to that role so he’s listening to Eminem on repeat? Yes, I actually DO love Selena Gomez and have the entire album on my iTunes. My music tastes align with a tween girl, and I’m pretty okay with that. I mean…Demi Lovato is freaking catchy.
I also love a campy joke, have seen every episode of Golden Girls and live for a group exercise class. I haven’t an ounce of talent when it comes to interior design, I hate to dress up, and I don’t even turn my oven on once a month. That’s the kind of gay I am.
And one more thing: I enjoy sex with men. I’m not saying I’ve slept with all of them, but a good handful. Mikey, that’s so stereotypical! You’re gay, and you like sex with men? Gawd!
I’ve had everyone in the room say, “Oh my god, he’s a queen!” Then last week someone asked if I had a girlfriend. (Shut up – it happened). When we start modifying our natural behavior only to move closer to or further away from society’s understanding of a gay man, we lose. We battle this much so we can be ourselves, whatever that is. So do it.
love and Lovato,